If the person you are caring for needs attention 24/7, get help so that you can take your “me” time without worrying about your loved one.
Asking for help is hard for a lot of complicated reasons. Sometimes, as caretakers, we don’t feel entitled to ask for help. Or, we’re embarrassed because “it would look like we can’t handle the job.”
Especially if you feel that you’re “on duty” 24 hours a day, see if a trusted friend or family member can share in the care duties. Consider using respite care services from a home health agency or adult day services.
Seek out neighborhood help to help with yard/outdoor maintenance. Find out if a local boys and girls club is offering volunteer services that may be useful.
Often, people are more than willing to help. They just need to be told how. Don’t feel guilty about asking for help. But, be specific about what you need.
- Your sister(s) and brother(s), aunt(s) and uncle(s)
- Your in-laws
- Your adult children, nieces and nephews
- Your loved one’s friends or neighbors
- Members of your loved one’s church or synagogue
- Your hospital’s support groups
- Local volunteer groups
- Senior citizens centers
- Your employer’s human resources department and/or your employee assistance program at work. What senior centers and adult day services are in your loved one’s area?. What are the best home health agencies around? What meal delivery and transportation support options are available?
Aging.gov/State Resources will be a big help to you. Click on your state for a full list of resources including how to apply for health insurance and how to report abuse. The most used links will likely be “Services and Help” and “Direct Service Locations.”
Caregiver Resources and Long-Term Care is another very helpful source of information from the U.S. government.
Visit the Administration on Aging, Administration for Community Living to find a State Agency on Aging and/or your local Area Agency on Aging.
Eldercare Locator, a public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging connecting you to services for older adults and their families. You can also reach them at 1-800-677-1116.
Meals on Wheels — Meals on Wheels ensures seniors have access to adequate nutrition even when family support, mobility and resources are lacking. At the core of the Meals on Wheels service is a nutritious meal. They are also a source of companionship and keep a watchful eye on the health and safety of seniors.
For those who have trouble getting around, Meals on Wheels brings the service to their home. For those who can still venture out into their communities, they serve in gathering places, such as senior centers and community facilities.
Meals may be provided along a sliding fee scale, from no cost to full price. No senior will be denied a meal because of an inability to pay. But, they may be asked to contribute voluntarily toward the cost of a meal. For more information, go to Meals on Wheels America.
Geriatric Care Managers — Consider hiring a care manager for an initial evaluation of your parent’s situation. If needed, they can also provide ongoing supervision of care or more extensive services. They’re trained quickly assess the overall situation, make unbiased recommendations. If desired, they will also coordinate community resources as well as hire and manage paid caregivers. Start with the Aging Life Care Association, the major national association of geriatric care managers. Their website includes a locator to find care managers near your loved one.
Respite Care — This is temporary care provided by someone else while their usual caregivers take an occasional break from their caregiving responsibilities. Respite care can be provided at home, in the community (e.g., adult day centers or special respite programs). If you would like to go on a longer vacation with your family, many nursing home and assisted living residences offer 24-hour-a-day respite services. For more information, go to The National Respite Locator Service.
Adult Day Care — National Adult Day Services Association — Adult day services is a professional care setting for older adults, adults living with dementia, or adults living with disabilities. While there, they receive individualized therapeutic, social, and health services for some part of the day … Continue Reading →
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