“I Google’d “support group for elder care” and found the BEST site on the Internet. Can’t believe the quick wisdom that is available at our fingertips. ASK (a question) and ye shall receive (an answer)!!!” ~ DAnn
You are not alone. You’ll find a lot of help from everyone who participates in our very active online Support Group. People just like you openly discuss everything to do with eldercare. Sometimes, to find relief from their stress, they also talk about things that don’t. What matters most is that the conversations are within a community where everyone feels comfortable … whether it’s to find an answer, to let off steam, to add a touch of humor, to help someone else because they’ve “been there, done that” … whatever.
Whether someone asks a question, and others jump in with their suggestions for help … or you simply need to vent … our participants respond 24/7. Arranged in an easy-to-use bulletin board format, our Support Group is very active with 140,000 page views per month.
Our Support Group is completely open. That is, your comments don’t have to be approved before they appear. The only way your comments are “censored” is if you’ve included some really bad profanity. Then the system will not let you post until you clean up what you’ve written, and wash out your mouth with soap.
If you have a problem respecting other people and their opinions — many are under extreme stress when they post — if you cannot agree to disagree, if you are belligerent or vindictive, if you try to market your product or service (tsk! tsk! You know better!), or otherwise poison the atmosphere — you WILL be flamed by the members of our community. It’s their right to protect their safe haven.
As you will see, our community is filled with a wide variety of “characters;” there is no mold you must fit into. Simply behave like you believe The Golden Rule. If you don’t, you will be vaporized; all of your threads and posts will be deleted and you will be permanently banned.
One visitor’s observation: “[This group] saved me from a complete breakdown. Only you people, though all our situations differ a bit, understand the stress, anger, guilt, despair, physical exhaustion and dread. I have learned so much from you all. There is no other place like it on the net and believe me I have looked. Thanks for being here, friends! While my struggles are winding down as my dad is now dying, I will forever be grateful for having found this safe place.”
See for yourself. Stop by and visit our Support Group (no personal information is ever required to participate).
- Note #1: Before you write a post, you will be asked for Your Name. Pick any username you want that’s easy to remember (To protect your privacy, it’s best not to use your real name.)
- Note #2: You will also see a blank box for your email address. This is NOT a mandatory box. It’s there for your convenience if you want allow others to correspond with you using your personal email.
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