Many parents are truly members of the “Sandwich” generation. They take care of their aging parents, while raising their own children and working full-time. With all the responsibilities that they’re juggling, it’s easy to understand why many sandwich parents become distracted.
You need to be aware of what is going on with your teens, even though a lot of your time and energy goes toward your parents at the moment.
Among the important issues you should be aware of are what your children are being exposed to on the Internet and underestimating your child’s ability to deceive. Note: This advice originally appeared on the Paul Anderson Youth Home’s website.
Advice from teens to their parents
- The internet has more on it than you can begin to imagine. You can go to websites and learn how to make drugs from everyday items, their effects, danger, etc. — to the chemical makeup of LSD or how to make Crystal Meth.
- Don’t underestimate a child’s power to deceive. The more they deceive, the better they become at deception. Practice paying attention to your child when they’re younger and it won’t seem so strange to them when they are older.
- Don’t be in denial about your children and do not think that your child would not do what others do. Peer pressure can be intense.
- Bailing your child out does not help them one bit. Actually, it hurts more than you can ever know. Most kids know this already. They just don’t care because they have already learned that there are no real consequences. Telling them that it’s going to be all right doesn’t help either. They need you (parents) to hold them accountable for their actions.
- Sex is happening all the time. You have to know what your kid is doing at your house and what they are doing at other people’s houses. Most things will happen at your house if there is already a history of doing it there. Kids get comfortable with a routine and the only way to find out what is going on is to disrupt that routine randomly. This doesn’t just apply to sex…it is for everything.